missing out
Glenn and his band (minus the drummer who is home with his wife & new baby) are out doing a Christmas tour right now with most of their label mates. I don't often feel this way, but I just really wish I was out there with them right now. It's such a great, fun group of people and I just feel like I'm missing out. It got me thinking tonight - what exactly do I feel I'm missing out on? I came up with several things...
-the sense of community
-the feeling of connection
-good, deep conversations with people who really "get" me
-lots of laughs
-simply seeing and being with my friends (even Jess & Taya & my sister-in-law Krista are on the road with them right now!)
-and last but not least, being with my husband of course!
When Glenn is away this long (since Dec 1st) I really start to "lose steam" with home life. By 6:30pm every night I feel absolutely done and still have to get two boys bathed and in bed and get supper cleaned up. Plus prepping for the next day, like making Jonah's lunch for school, getting Bram's diaper bag replenished. I even figure out what I'll be wearing the next day to take the guess work out of the morning - otherwise I'll get Jonah to school late. Actually, I've only gotten Jonah to school on time ONCE since Glenn has left. I'll blame that on snow. However, he's never been super late - like only a minute or two. Then there's a load of laundry to finish, tidying to do, and then I've got to shower, feed Bram and get myself to bed. (And if you read my blog, you know how endless and impossible to finish the household 'maintenance' is!) This long, busy evening doesn't really allow for house guests. And I just can't afford to stay up late chatting anyway because I'll be up in the night with Bram and up by 7am at the latest. And the more sleep I have, the better Mom I am! [That said, I actually stayed up until 1:30am talking on the phone with Glenn one day this past week and did a pretty good job coping the next day.]
My social life? That consists of infrequent get-togethers during the day with other people who have kids while supervising kids. It doesn't allow for much "deep conversation". There's definitely value in that, don't get me wrong, but it doesn't quite hit the spot for me.
There are a few people who help me to keep my sanity while Glenn is away. My brother, my mother-in-law and my neighbor all occasionally pitch in so that I can get out for a run:walk (3:1 right now - I'm just getting started!) or run out to a store by myself. I even got out for a girls' night last week.
But my life right now = responsibilities. I'm SO tied down!
And so, part of me would really like to be out there on the Bethlehem Skyline Tour. If you're a mother of young children whose husband travels, I KNOW you understand and I know you won't hold it against me.
I'm a super Mom, but I'm no Supermom!
-the sense of community
-the feeling of connection
-good, deep conversations with people who really "get" me
-lots of laughs
-simply seeing and being with my friends (even Jess & Taya & my sister-in-law Krista are on the road with them right now!)
-and last but not least, being with my husband of course!
When Glenn is away this long (since Dec 1st) I really start to "lose steam" with home life. By 6:30pm every night I feel absolutely done and still have to get two boys bathed and in bed and get supper cleaned up. Plus prepping for the next day, like making Jonah's lunch for school, getting Bram's diaper bag replenished. I even figure out what I'll be wearing the next day to take the guess work out of the morning - otherwise I'll get Jonah to school late. Actually, I've only gotten Jonah to school on time ONCE since Glenn has left. I'll blame that on snow. However, he's never been super late - like only a minute or two. Then there's a load of laundry to finish, tidying to do, and then I've got to shower, feed Bram and get myself to bed. (And if you read my blog, you know how endless and impossible to finish the household 'maintenance' is!) This long, busy evening doesn't really allow for house guests. And I just can't afford to stay up late chatting anyway because I'll be up in the night with Bram and up by 7am at the latest. And the more sleep I have, the better Mom I am! [That said, I actually stayed up until 1:30am talking on the phone with Glenn one day this past week and did a pretty good job coping the next day.]
My social life? That consists of infrequent get-togethers during the day with other people who have kids while supervising kids. It doesn't allow for much "deep conversation". There's definitely value in that, don't get me wrong, but it doesn't quite hit the spot for me.
There are a few people who help me to keep my sanity while Glenn is away. My brother, my mother-in-law and my neighbor all occasionally pitch in so that I can get out for a run:walk (3:1 right now - I'm just getting started!) or run out to a store by myself. I even got out for a girls' night last week.
But my life right now = responsibilities. I'm SO tied down!
And so, part of me would really like to be out there on the Bethlehem Skyline Tour. If you're a mother of young children whose husband travels, I KNOW you understand and I know you won't hold it against me.
I'm a super Mom, but I'm no Supermom!
posted by Sherri Lavender at
9:29 PM
2 Comments:
i guess this is why there are so many mom bloggers - it's a very practical way to connect with other moms in the same boat - who want to have deep conversations with people.
I wish you were here too for sure. can't wait to see you for New Years! (or whenever we decide is best to visit!!!) - and don't worry about cleaning your house! we like it just as it is !! :)
By
Jessica Lewis, At
11:16 PM
I hear ya! I would kill for a quiet lunch with you somewhere nice without kiddies to have meaningful interaction/conversations. The enemy has really been trying to convince me lately that I don't have any friends that I'm not related to. Or that they don't call me because I have kids = I'm no fun. But I'm sure he's wrong. Right?!
By
Patti S., At
12:22 AM
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